Honest Mom Talk

Real Talk on Weaponized Incompetence & Acceptance

Molly Ryden Season 1 Episode 2

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In this episode, Molly breaks down two sneaky but common dynamics that show up in marriages and parenting partnerships: weaponized incompetence and weaponized acceptance. These behaviors quietly shift the mental and physical load onto one partner—most often women—creating an imbalance that leads to resentment, burnout, and emotional disconnection.

Molly shares real-life examples, relatable insights, and practical tools for spotting these patterns in your own home. If you’ve ever felt like you're doing it all—because your partner “just doesn’t know how” or conveniently fades into the background—this one’s for you.

She reminds us that asking for equality isn't "nagging"—it's necessary. And that clear communication and boundary-setting can pave the way for a healthier, more balanced family dynamic where everyone pulls their weight.

Top Takeaways:
✨ Weaponized incompetence = pretending to be bad at tasks to avoid responsibility
✨ Weaponized acceptance = passive benefit from not engaging
✨ Both uphold outdated gender roles
✨ Spotting these patterns is the first step to change
✨ Boundaries are your friend—set them clearly and early
✨ Shared responsibility is not a luxury—it’s a standard
✨ Asking for help doesn’t make you high-maintenance
✨ Communication is your superpower
✨ Encouraging your partner to step up supports the whole family
✨ Guilt has no place in your pursuit of balance

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