Me Time Minutes: Somtimes Your Kid is an A-hole

In this episode of 'Me Time Minutes,' hosted by Molly, the conversation gets real about a taboo and controversial feeling all mothers have experienced but rarely admit: sometimes, their kids can be assholes. Molly reassures moms that feeling frustrated, resentful, or angry doesn't make them bad parents—it's part of being human. She shares personal anecdotes and offers three key tips to handle such challenging moments: pause and take a breath, vent without shame, and repair the situation by modeling emotional intelligence. Molly emphasizes that acknowledging these tough moments can create a more relatable and supportive motherhood community. Join the conversation and remember, even in challenging times, you're doing an amazing job.

00:00 Introduction to Me Time Minutes

00:26 Acknowledging the Hard Truths of Motherhood

04:05 Coping Strategies for Overwhelmed Moms

06:27 The Power of Repair and Emotional Intelligence

07:52 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Transcript

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On this episode of Me Time Minutes. We're gonna cover something super controversial, but something that every single one of us has thought about. Let's get started. I. Hey, welcome to me time, minutes, your quick self-care boost and honest mom conversation in the middle of a busy week, because even a few minutes of me time can change everything. Let's dive in. Hello, hello, and welcome back to More Me Time, minutes. As always, I am Molly. And today we're going to get real about a taboo and controversial feeling that every mother has had, and none of us wanna admit. Sometimes your kid's an asshole. Let me say this louder and let me be clear. This does not make you a bad mom. You can love your kid with every fiber of your existence and still have days where they push every button and push you too far that you feel like screaming into a pillow. I've done it. I have screamed into a pillow. I have hid in the pantry or the laundry room, and. Damn, if I haven't thought about having a quiet weekend alone in a hotel room where no one touches me or asks me for anything, and that my friends is called being human, these kids are unpredictable. They have huge feelings. Tiny logic and zero filter. Sometimes their behavior feels so aggressive, rude, manipulative, completely irrational, and guess what? It's okay for you to name it and sometimes that name. Is asshole. I can't tell you how many times I have joked that I won't be friends with parents who don't admit that their kid is an asshole. I won't be par be friends with moms. I don't want, I have nothing in common with parents who don't feel frustration in their parenting with parents who don't. You know, ever feel like this is impossible. This is hard. This is not what I want to be doing. Because like, I don't think that that's reality. I think that if you are constantly just, this is the most amazing and wonderful, like you're delusional and like hot take, you probably need therapy because it's, it's the guilt. It's the guilt that we feel, the denial that we have to not live in that present moment. And you know, I can't tell you the number of times I've been so pissed off at my son or my daughter and someone says, it's just a season, it'll get better. Or the converse of that is when someone says, oh, just wait. Just wait till they hit this. And I've been guilty of it too, because we're trying to find relatability, right? We're trying to find something in common that makes us. Connect with each other because that's the whole point, right? Like that's why I have the mom squad. That's why I bring on relatable guests to mom needs me time. That's why I've created these bite-sized episodes of me time minutes, so we can connect and we can talk about the hard parts of motherhood. So regardless of how you feel about your kid in any given moment. I want you to know that it's okay. You are allowed to feel frustration. You're allowed to be resentful, and you're fucking allowed to be angry because your feelings matter too. And feelings are not facts. They are just information in that moment and time. It's what you do with those feelings and how you learn to process them that matters, and that is what your kids are watching, so. Here are my three tips of the episode. Things to remember when your kids are driving you nuts and you're fantasizing about those days with no children, where you get to just sleep and be alone, number one. It sounds really basic, but just pause and take a breath. You're not failing because your kid is being a jerk. You're not failing because you feel that your kid is being a jerk. You're overstimulated. This is when I say go touch grass, this is when I tell people to like go scream in the pantry. I've screamed into the freezer in my carport before, which I know makes me sound like a crazy person, but you know, you sometimes also don't want your kids to see you. React to their emotions, right? So like, you're not failing by having these feelings. You're just overstimulated, overwhelmed, tired, whatever it may be. Step away for 10, 15, 30 seconds if you can, and just take a deep breath. You know, I previously have talked about ways to regulate your nervous system with grounding. Touch something cold, run cold water over your hands. You know, do things that are gonna bring you back to the moment, to the reality. To calm down. Number two, talk about it. Be about it. Vent without shame. If you have a trusted friend or a mom group where you can say, this sucked. Today was rough. My kid was next level, there being an asshole, do it. There should be no judgment because like I said, there is not a single person who has not gone through tough moments of parenting. It's just whether or not they accept that they were tough and acknowledge it'cause we're all learning and growing. Side tip here, if you just wanna vent and you don't want advice, say that. Say, I just need to vent about this kid. I just need to talk about what happened. Because it's our nature, especially as mothers, to offer solution to want to fix things. And so make sure if you don't wanna hear it, you clarify it, but also be open to hearing it, because sometimes people have lived experiences that you don't have and it can be helpful. Number three is a big one. I think it's a shift generationally that we're seeing with moms. Repair it. Repair is so powerful if you have lost it, if you have yelled, apologize. Once everyone's calmed down, once you're back in your logical place, go and say, mom is so sorry that I yelled at you. I understand that you were frustrated. I was frustrated too. This is showing your kid that we have to regulate as well. And here's the. Biggest takeaway of this, it is modeling emotional intelligence. You don't always have to be the big, scary, powerful authority. You get to have moments where you're emotional. I can't tell you the number of moms I talk to where they're like, I don't wanna cry in front of my kids. I don't want my kids to see me being vulnerable. Vulnerability is normal. So those three things, again, pause and take a breath, vent without shame, find a safe place to do it. If you don't have one shameless plug, come join the mom squad. That's what we do there. We talk, we relate, we vent. We appreciate one another. We understand where each other are coming from in motherhood. It's a place to hang out and repair the situation. When you get dysregulated, make sure that your kids know it's okay to apologize. It's okay to own their feelings and emotions, and most importantly, number four, adjacent. Remember that you're a good mom and having hard days doesn't erase that. Not loving every minute. Of motherhood does not make you a bad mom, and we should not be carrying the guilt of ever feeling that way. Let's normalize this messy, imperfect, and these beautiful moments of parenting because pretending that we don't have them is even more isolating. You're not alone. You're not raising a monster. Your kids are not trying to push you to the breaking points. They're just tiny humans learning how to be human, and it is our job to teach them how to do that in a healthy, responsible manner. You're doing great. You're doing amazing. Hang in there, and until next time, give yourself the me time, minute you deserve. All right. That's it. That's your me time minute. If this resonated with you, make sure to follow. Mama needs me time on Instagram and Facebook, and join our community for more support. And remember, you're worth every bit of rest that you can get. See you next time.